event rules
event rules

BEFORE YOU ATTEND OUR EVENTS

You must agree to the following in order to attend INDIGEO VOLO events:

  • You must provide proof of Covid-19 vaccination.

     

  • There is no smoking allowed anywhere on the venue property. If you wish to smoke, please exit the main doors and turn left, walk past the bus station and to the corner of Cook and Southgate.

     

  • If someone asks what event is going on at the Centre, or what party you’re coming from, we ask that you don’t disclose the nature of our event. Just say it’s a private party.

     

  • Cover up your fetish wear and keep your gear packed away when outside the venue. Some outfits can pass as club wear, but if you’re unsure about whether you should cover up, ask a Director or just cover it up. Please do not go smoke while wearing lingerie!

     

  • Do not play outside the venue or near the surrounding businesses before, during, or after events. Please do not draw attention to what we are doing here. This is a residential area and there are people who get upset when they know what we were doing in their neighbourhood.

WE PROMOTE INCLUSIVITY AND BODY NEUTRALITY

Our events feature adults of all ages, ethnicities, body types, genders, and abilities. You will see these bodies in various stages of undress, and engaged in numerous kink and BDSM related activities. If the thought of this disturbs you, you’re probably in the wrong place.


We are also a proud and welcoming LGBTQ2IA+ space. Homophobia, transphobia, racism, or other prejudices will not be tolerated at our events. If someone says something that makes you feel uncomfortable, please let any of the Directors know! We want you to feel safe here.

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SCENTS AND SENSIBILITY

We have Members and Directors with severe scent allergies. We ask that you do not wear or use any scented products at our venue.

Be aware that you may be asked by a Director to wash off your product or, worst case, leave the venue.

your entrance wristband

We offer coloured wristbands at the front desk – you can use them to indicate your interest in playing, and it also lets you come in and out of the venue just by flashing it to the person at the door. 

Change your mind about playing and want a different coloured wristband? No problem! You can change the colour of your wristband at any time.

Typically, wearing your wristband on your left wrist indicates Topping and right wrist bottoming.

Typically, it follows the stop light system:

GREEN • I WANT to play. You can ask me!

YELLOW • I MIGHT want to play. You can ask…

RED • I am NOT interested in playing. Don’t ask.

Directors will also have pink bands that say Director, and volunteers will have a blue one saying Volunteer. Guests will wear pink and blue sprinkle wristbands

be aware of microaggressions

Microaggressions are those little things we might say or do without thinking, but they can be pretty hurtful, particularly to individuals who are from marginalized communities, including people who are queer, trans, and/or disabled. These actions or words might not be intentional, but they can still sting.

Here are just a few examples:

  • Telling a trans person, “You don’t look trans,” implying there’s a certain way to appear trans;

  • Making assumptions about a kinky person’s boundaries or preferences;

  • Saying to someone into kink, “How can you enjoy that?” implying there’s something wrong with their preferences;

  • Telling someone with a disability that they don’t look disabled, or implying they need to prove their need for accommodations;

  • Not bothering to learn how to pronounce someone’s name because it’s “too difficult.”

If someone points out that we’ve slipped up, it’s a chance to listen and learn, not get defensive – and we know that can be hard. Remember, everyone’s learning here; it’s okay not to be perfect right off the bat. What’s important is that we’re open to understanding and respecting each other’s experiences and perspectives, and appreciating that if something is pointed out to us, because it gives us room to grow together.

don't out anyone!

We have a big kink community here in Victoria, and chances are at some point you may see someone you know from work, school, or church. First of all, don’t panic! They’re here for the same reason you are. Secondly, and this is incredibly important- don’t ‘out’ them! This means if you see them, don’t acknowledge their outside life, especially in front of others.

Here’s what you should know:

  • Pretend it’s your first meeting. Make sure you listen for or ask for the name and pronouns they use here, since it might be different from what you know. Our community space allows for various identities to be expressed freely. Stick to the names and pronouns they choose in this context.

  • What happens at INDIGEO stays at INDIGEO. If you see someone you know engaging in a scene, the way you talk about it matters. Describing the scene without names to a friend who missed out on the party? That’s fine. Mentioning anything about it to anyone outside of the community? Off-limits. 

This isn’t just about discretion; it’s about trust. Whether it’s who you saw or what you saw, keep it within the community.

our phone policy

We now allow phones to be used at our events – but with limitations! Phones MUST have their camera lenses covered with tape unless you’re in the photo area. Coloured tape is provided at the entrance and the photo area.

We do not allow any video or audio recording on the property.

WHY WE'VE CHANGED THE RULE
  • People have medical devices such as Bluetooth glucometers that they need to have access to;

  • People want to check on their people or pets at home;

  • To allow for Bluetooth connected toys to be used;

  • To let people socialise or have down-time in a way they feel comfortable.

WANT A PHOTO?

For some events, we have a small dedicated photo area with a full-sized light stand, camera holder, and selfie stick. You may use your camera freely in THIS AREA ONLY. 

Photo area not available? Ask a Director and we will arrange for you to take a quick photo with no other Members in view.

Did you get a great photo? Tag us on Instagram or Fetlife!

NAVIGATING THE SOCIAL AREAS

The social areas are anything outside the designated play and aftercare areas. Those in the social areas are doing just that- socializing! 

WE DO NOT ALLOW ANY PLAY OUTSIDE OF THE PLAY AREA.

Dungeon Monitors (DMs) are focused on the play area and cannot be expected to monitor the social areas.

GENERAL RULES OF RESPECT

WE NURTURE A CULTURE OF ENTHUSIASTIC CONSENT.

Kink does not confer blanket consent to interact with people in a less than respectful manner! Always ask for permission before touching other people or their belongings. This includes handshakes, hugs, etc.

Don’t touch anyone’s mobility devices without consent. This includes, but isn’t limited to wheelchairs, walkers, scooters, and canes. Touching someone’s mobility devices without their consent is considered assault.

Don’t use titles without permission. That includes calling someone Master or Mistress, baby girl, pup, or using any degrading or praising names without consent being given.

WATCHING OTHERS ON THE PLAYFLOOR

We know scenes are hot to watch, but we ask that you please don’t gawk, gesture towards, or make audible remarks about ongoing scenes. Discussing it quietly and respectfully with someone in the social area is fine; loudly commenting on people’s bodies or their technique is not.

Additionally, loud conversations or noises are distracting and can ruin players’ headspace. Please don’t approach anyone who has just concluded a scene-  wait until they’ve rejoined the social area. This includes when they’re leaving the play floor, and when they’re in the aftercare area.

DON'T INTERRUPT OR INTERVENE

Don’t enter an active scene without previous permission from the players involved AND clearance from the DM on duty.

IF SOMETHING TRIGGERS YOU

If you feel triggered by something you’re watching, we encourage you to remove yourself from the situation; maybe take a bathroom break, go outside for some fresh air if you’re appropriately dressed, or visit the quiet area. 

Our DMs are trained for the safety of all players and are focused on watching the scenes at hand. A Director will try their best to address your concerns, and are always available throughout the venue.

WHAT ISN'T ALLOWED AT INDIGEO VOLO EVENTS?

INDIGEO VOLO celebrates all consensual kink, and we do not allow kink-shaming. For the health and safety of our Members, and to comply with our multiple contracts (venue, insurance, liquor, etc.) we have to restrict and limit certain activities.

DRUGS & ALCOHOL

Do not bring any illegal drugs or alcohol into the venue. If you are visibly impaired, you will be refused entry or asked to leave.

BODILY FLUID PLAY

We do not allow any bodily fluid play. This includes non-incidental blood, or any vomit, urine, or scat play, as they are considered biohazards.

ELECTRICAL PLAY - HOMEMADE DEVICES

No tasers, cattle prods, or homemade electrical devices. Violet wands, tens units, and shock collars ARE allowed.

GUNS & WEAPONS

This includes but isn’t limited to real or replica firearms, BB guns, tasers, stun guns, paintball guns, etc. If in doubt, check with a DM or Board Member.

CANDLES & OPEN FLAMES

The venue strictly prohibits any open flames. A CrockPot will be heated and ready for your wax play.

AIRFLOW & BREATHPLAY RESTRICTIONS

We do not allow restriction of airflow/breathing, choking, or chokeholds.

SCENTS & CHEMICAL IRRITANTS

 No pepper spray, bear mace, poppers, scented wax, or perfumes. Many members have chemical sensitivities and this type of play cannot be done inside a closed spaces.

SEXUAL ACTIVITY LIMITATIONS

Permitted sexual activity (requires a drop cloth):

  • Penetration with toys or fingers ONLY

 

Restricted sexual activities:

  • Oral-to-genital/anal
  • Genital-to-genital/anal
  • Disruptively loud play

 

Drop cloths and puppy pads are stocked at the DM Station. Feel free to bring a towel from home! 

SHARPS & BLOOD PLAY SAFETY LIMITATIONS

Before starting any sharps or blood-related play, speak with a DM to arrange your scene. All needles and disposable sharps must be properly disposed of in the biohazard container provided. You can’t combine any other activities with a needle scene; this includes flogging, spanking, and so on due to the risk of blood spatter.

You must clean all blood off of yourself/your bottom to the best of your ability before you leave the play floor. If you wash up in the restrooms, you must disinfect the sink, faucets and any other surfaces you came into contact with using the provided sanitizer.

LISTEN TO THE DUNGEON MONITORS

Dungeon Monitors (usually called DMs) are a team of Volunteers who have undergone training regarding kink safety. They oversee the play floor and will intervene if necessary. They’re responsible for ensuring our policies are followed and that everyone is playing safely. If you disagree with the decision of the DM, please pause your play and discuss it calmly with them. If you cannot come to an understanding with the DM, please end your scene and speak with a Director about the issue.

FIRST AID AND SAFETY SHEARS

All of our events are stocked with a full First Aid Kit for minor injury treatment only. The venue is also equipped with an AED system located behind the reception desk, as well as several naloxone kits located in the kitchen, and most Directors are trained in its administration.


We also keep safety shears on hand in the event of an emergency (or in case you forgot yours). Any play involving ropes requires you to have a pair of shears at your station. A DM may need to cut ropes or restraints to prevent potential life-threatening injuries.

USING THE EVENT SAFEWORD

Yelling or saying “RED” or “SAFEWORD” stops a scene or any interaction at our events!

This overrides any existing power-exchange dynamics you may have outside of the event. If you’re planning a scene where the bottom will be gagged, a non-verbal signal must be established with the DM on duty (such as a squeaky toy, bell, or clicker).


We cannot advise you when to use your safeword, as that is certainly an individual decision, but we can explain what will happen next:

  1. Using any of these safewords or signals requires all play in that scene to pause.

  2. A DM will check in and will either allow the scene to proceed, or assist you in ending the scene.

  3. If applicable, a Director will assist you in filling out an incident report.

LEAVE THE PLAY FLOOR TOGETHER

Not all dynamics include extended aftercare, and that’s fine! We just ask that you make sure to leave the play floor with your partner(s) – not before, or afterward if you’re cleaning up. This lets the DMs know that they can allow the next people to use your station.

THE SOCIAL LOUNGE AND LITTLES' AREA

Located off the main hall, the Social Lounge and Quiet Area is a lounge room filled with comfy chairs, tables, air conditioning, (and a fireplace for the cooler months), and soft music. Whenever you need time to socialize quietly, collect yourself, step away from the stimulation of the main social area, or to just relax, you can find a spot here. 

This littles’ lounge is tucked into the corner of the Social Area. It has some quiet games, colouring supplies, fidget toys, and cute lights. Please just remember not to be disruptive while sharing this space.

REPORTING CONSENT VIOLATIONS OR OTHER INCIDENTS

We take the safety and enjoyment of our Members very seriously, so if anyone makes you feel unsafe or violates your consent at an INDIGEO VOLO event, we want to know about it. 

We encourage you to report any consent violations or other incidents to a Director immediately. They will  guide you through our incident reporting process, and take your statement; you won’t have to fill anything out. We will also have paper copies of our INCIDENT REPORT FORM available in the washrooms of our events if you would prefer to write it out privately.

If you would like to submit a report after you have processed your experience, or if you are uncomfortable speaking to us in person, we also have a secure and confidential online form on our website. When we receive a submission, we will reach out to confirm that we’ve received your report, and to say that we will be in touch with you shortly to follow up. We’ll then convene an emergency Board Meeting and use our internal policies to decide on our next steps to reach out to you with.

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