event rules

event rules

ATTENDING INDIGEO VOLO DUNGEON PARTIES

The following are required in order to attend INDIGEO VOLO events:

 

  • You must provide proof of Covid-19 vaccination.


  • There is no smoking allowed anywhere on the venue property. If you wish to smoke, please exit the main doors and turn left, walk past the bus station and to the corner of Cook and Southgate.

     

  • If someone asks what event is going on at the Centre, or what party you’re coming from, we ask that you don’t disclose the nature of our event. Just say it’s a private party.

  • Cover up your fetish wear and keep your gear packed away when outside the venue. Some outfits can pass as club wear, but if you’re unsure about whether you should cover up, ask a Director or just cover it up. Please do not go smoke while wearing lingerie!

     

  • Do not play outside the venue or near the surrounding businesses before, during, or after events. NEVER do this! Please do not draw attention to what we are doing here. This is a residential area and there unfortunately are people who would get upset if they knew what we were doing in their neighbourhood.

SCENTS AND SENSIBILITY

We have Members and Directors with severe scent allergies. We ask that you do not wear or use any scented products at our venue.

Be aware that you may be asked by a Director to wash off your product or, worst case, leave the venue.

WE PROMOTE INCLUSIVITY AND BODY NEUTRALITY

Our events feature adults of all ages, ethnicities, body types, genders, and abilities. You will see these bodies in various stages of undress, and engaged in numerous kink and BDSM related activities. If the thought of this disturbs you, you’re probably in the wrong place.


We are also a proud and welcoming LGBTQ2IA+ space. Homophobia, transphobia, racism, or other prejudices will not be tolerated at our events. If someone says something that makes you feel uncomfortable, please let any of the Directors know! We want you to feel safe here.

don't out anyone!

We have a big kink community here in Victoria, and chances are at some point you may see someone you know from work, school, or church. First of all, don’t panic! They’re here for the same reason you are. Secondly, and this is incredibly important- don’t ‘out’ them! 

What that means is: 

  • Don’t go up to them while they’re with other people and ask how their work week was, or how the latest school bake sale went. The general guideline is to introduce yourself as though you’re just meeting them for the first time.

  • Only refer to them by the name and pronouns they introduce themselves with – many of us use a combination of Fetlife names, scene names, nicknames, and first names. Also, some of us may present as and/or identify ourselves with different pronouns when we are in our safe community space. Make sure you’re aware and respectful of this.

  • What happens at INDIGEO events, stays at INDIGEO events. What I mean by this is, well, pretty much exactly that. You don’t talk about who you saw, or what you saw them doing, with anyone not involved in the community.

be aware of microaggressions

Put simply, microaggressions are subtle, everyday, and often unintentional interactions and behaviours that communicate bias or prejudice, usually towards people from underrepresented or marginalised communities. The difference between microaggressions and overt discrimination or macroaggressions, is that people who commit microaggressions might not even be aware of them.

Many people who engage in microaggressions may mean no harm toward the person or group being targeted and they may not even realize that they are making a microaggressive comment or action. It’s something that we all do, often without realising it. Regardless, microaggressions can be very hurtful to the people who experience them. 

Some brief examples of microaggressions to help illustrate what we mean:

  • Making certain jokes, usually prefaced with, “I’m not racist/ homophobic/ transphobic, but,”;
  • Moving away from someone or excluding them from discussions because you aren’t sure how to include them;
  • Telling a trans person that they ‘pass well’;
  • Telling someone that they ‘speak English well’;
  • Deliberately not using someone’s pronouns;
  • Accusing someone of being oversensitive when they are harmed by a microaggression.

It’s our responsibility to be mindful of them, and to work towards adjusting how we react when informed that something we’ve said or done has made someone uncomfortable. We should be appreciative of the opportunity to learn from our behaviour, and that the other person took the time and risk to educate someone else, often at possible personal risk.

COVER PHONE CAMERAS!

We now allow phones to be used at our events – but with limitations! Phones MUST have their camera lenses covered with tape unless you’re in the photo area. Coloured tape is provided at the entrance and the photo area. We do not allow any video or audio recording on the property.

VISIT OUR SELFIE STATION

We have a small dedicated photo area with a full-sized light stand (with adjustable height, lighting, and colours), camera holder, and selfie stick. You may use your camera in THIS AREA ONLY. 

Did you get a great photo? Tag us on Instagram, Twitter, or Fetlife!

WEAR YOUR ENTRANCE WRISTBAND

After you’ve been checked in, you may choose a wristband that represents your interest in play.

Change your mind about playing and want a different coloured wristband? No problem! You can change the colour of your wristband at any time.

 

Typically, left wrist = Top and right wrist = bottom.

GREEN • I WANT to play. ASK ME!

YELLOW • I MIGHT want to play. You can ask…

RED • I am NOT interested in playing. Don’t ask.

NAVIGATING THE SOCIAL AREAS

The social areas are anything outside the designated play and aftercare areas. Those in the social areas are doing just that- socializing! 

Dungeon Monitors (DMs) are focused on the play area and cannot be expected to monitor the social areas. Tops must ensure the physical safety of bottoms at all times.

WE DO NOT ALLOW ANY PLAY OUTSIDE OF THE PLAY AREA.

GENERAL RULES OF RESPECT

WE NURTURE A CULTURE OF ENTHUSIASTIC CONSENT.


Kink does not confer blanket consent to interact with people in a less than respectful manner! Always ask for permission before touching other people or their belongings. This includes handshakes, hugs, etc.


Don’t use titles without permission. That includes calling someone Master or Mistress, baby girl, pup, or using any degrading or praising names without consent being given.

WATCHING OTHERS ON THE PLAYFLOOR

We know scenes are hot to watch, but we ask that you please don’t gawk, gesture towards, or make audible remarks about ongoing scenes. Discussing it  quietly and respectfully with someone in the social area is fine; loudly commenting on people’s bodies or their technique is not.

Additionally, loud conversations or noises are distracting and can ruin players’ headspace. Please don’t approach anyone who has just concluded a scene-  wait until they’ve rejoined the social area. This includes when they’re leaving the play floor, and when they’re in the aftercare area.

 

DON'T INTERRUPT OR INTERVENE

Don’t enter an active scene without previous permission from the players involved AND clearance from the DM on duty. If you see a scene that upsets or worries you, please let a Director know. 

Our DMs are formally trained for the safety of all players and are focused on watching the scenes at hand. A Director will try their best to address your concerns.

IF SOMETHING TRIGGERS YOU

If you feel triggered by something you’re watching, we encourage you to remove yourself from the situation; maybe take a bathroom break, go outside for some fresh air if you’re appropriately dressed, or visit the quiet area. 

If you would like to talk to a Director about what happened, we are always  available throughout the venue.

BEFORE YOU PLAY AT INDIGEO VOLO EVENTS

LISTEN TO THE DUNGEON MONITORS

Dungeon Monitors (usually called DMs) are a team of Volunteers who have undergone training regarding kink safety. They oversee the play floor and will intervene if necessary. They’re responsible for ensuring our policies are followed and that everyone is playing safely. If you disagree with the decision of the DM, please pause your play and discuss it calmly with them. If you cannot come to an understanding with the DM, please end your scene and speak with a Director about the issue.

The Dungeon Monitor’s decisions on the play floor are final and will be fully supported by the Directors of INDIGEO VOLO.

PLAYERS ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR EACH OTHER

Not all dynamics include extended aftercare, and that’s fine! We just ask that you make sure to leave the play floor with your partner(s) – not before, or afterward if you’re cleaning up. 

USING THE EVENT SAFEWORD

Yelling or saying “RED” or “SAFEWORD” stops a scene or any interaction at our events!

This overrides any existing power-exchange dynamics you may have outside of the event. If you’re planning a scene where the bottom will be gagged, a non-verbal signal must be established with the DM on duty (such as a squeaky toy, bell, or clicker).


We cannot advise you when to use your safeword, as that is certainly an individual decision, but we can explain what will happen next:

  1. Using any of these safewords or signals requires all play in that scene to pause.

  2. A DM will check in and will either allow the scene to proceed, or assist you in ending the scene.

  3. If applicable, a Director will assist you in filling out an incident report.

FIRST AID AND SAFETY SHEARS

All of our events are stocked with a full First Aid Kit for minor injury treatment only. The venue is also equipped with an AED system located behind the reception desk, as well as several naloxone kits located in the kitchen, and most Directors are trained in its administration.


We also keep safety shears on hand in the event of an emergency (or in case you forgot yours). Any play involving ropes requires you to have a pair of shears at your station. A DM may need to cut ropes or restraints to prevent potential life-threatening injuries.

WHAT IS NOT ALLOWED AT INDIGEO VOLO EVENTS?

INDIGEO VOLO celebrates all consensual kink, and we do not allow kink-shaming.


For the health and safety of our Members, and to comply with our multiple contracts (venue, insurance, liquor, etc.) we must restrict certain activities.

DRUGS AND ALCOHOL

If you are visibly impaired, you will be refused entry or asked to leave.

Do not bring:

  • illegal drugs;
  • outside alcohol;

NOTE: Smoking and vaping are not permitted on the premises.

BODILY FLUID PLAY

We do not allow any bodily fluid play. This includes non-incidental blood, or any vomit, urine, or scat play, as they are considered biohazards.

ELECTRICAL PLAY

No tasers, cattle prods, or homemade electrical devices. Violet wands and shock collars ARE allowed.

GUNS AND OTHER WEAPONS

This includes but isn’t limited to real or replica firearms, BB guns, tasers, stun guns, paintball guns, etc. If in doubt, check with a DM or Board Member.

CANDLES AND OPEN FLAMES

The venue strictly prohibits any open flames. A CrockPot will be heated and ready for your wax play.

AIRFLOW AND BREATHPLAY RESTRICTIONS

We do not allow restriction of airflow/breathing, choking, or chokeholds.

SCENTS AND CHEMICAL IRRITANTS

No pepper spray, bear mace, poppers, scented wax, or perfumes. Many members have chemical sensitivities and this type of play cannot be done inside a closed space.

WHAT ARE THE EVENT LIMITATIONS?

SEXUAL ACTIVITY LIMITATIONS

Permitted sexual activity (requires a drop cloth):

  • Penetration with toys or fingers ONLY

Restricted sexual activities:

  • Oral-to-genital/anal
  • Genital-to-genital/anal
  • Disruptively loud play

Drop cloths and puppy pads are stocked at the DM Station. Feel free to bring a towel from home! These restrictions are in order to remain in compliance with our various contracts.

SHARPS AND BLOOD PLAY SAFETY LIMITATIONS

Before starting any sharps or blood-related play, speak with a DM to arrange your scene. All needles and disposable sharps must be properly disposed of in the biohazard container provided. You can’t combine any other activities with a needle scene; this includes flogging, spanking, and so on due to the risk of blood spatter.

You must clean all blood off of yourself/your bottom to the best of your ability before you leave the play floor. If you wash up in the restrooms, you must disinfect the sink, faucets and any other surfaces you came into contact with using the provided sanitizer.

THE QUIET LOUNGE AND LITTLES’ AREA

Located off the main hall, the Aftercare and Quiet Area is a lounge room filled with comfy chairs, air conditioning, (and a fireplace for the cooler months), and soft music. Whenever you need time to collect yourself, step away from the stimulation of the main social area, or to just relax, you can find a spot here. 

This littles’ lounge is tucked into the corner of the Aftercare Area. It has some quiet games, colouring supplies, fidget toys, and cute lights. Please just remember not to be disruptive while sharing this space.

 

REPORTING CONSENT VIOLATIONS OR OTHER INCIDENTS

We take the safety and enjoyment of our Members very seriously, so if anyone makes you feel unsafe or violates your consent at an INDIGEO VOLO event, we want to know about it. 

We encourage you to report any consent violations or other incidents to a Director immediately. They will  guide you through our incident reporting process, and take your statement; you won’t have to fill anything out. We will also have paper copies of our INCIDENT REPORT FORM available in the washrooms of our events if you would prefer to write it out privately.

If you would like to submit a report after you have processed your experience, or if you are uncomfortable speaking to us in person, we also have a secure and confidential online form on our website. When we receive a submission, we will reach out to confirm that we’ve received your report, and to say that we will be in touch with you shortly to follow up. We’ll then convene an emergency Board Meeting and use our internal policies to decide on our next steps to reach out to you with.

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