don't out anyone!
We have a big kink community here in Victoria, and chances are at some point you may see someone you know from work, school, or church. First of all, don’t panic! They’re here for the same reason you are. Secondly, and this is incredibly important- don’t ‘out’ them!
What that means is:
- Don’t go up to them while they’re with other people and ask how their work week was, or how the latest school bake sale went. The general guideline is to introduce yourself as though you’re just meeting them for the first time.
- Only refer to them by the name and pronouns they introduce themselves with – many of us use a combination of Fetlife names, scene names, nicknames, and first names. Also, some of us may present as and/or identify ourselves with different pronouns when we are in our safe community space. Make sure you’re aware and respectful of this.
- What happens at INDIGEO events, stays at INDIGEO events. What I mean by this is, well, pretty much exactly that. You don’t talk about who you saw, or what you saw them doing, with anyone not involved in the community.